Stepping out? Watch out
for a good sign (shakun).
What percent are you
expecting this academic year?
Heard you are planning a
new business set up. How soon would you like it to be at breakeven?
Do not welcome evil with a
black dress on the festive season!
Having grown up amidst many
customs and systems all through the life, since the very first step on this
earth, for being an Indian specifically I have been hearing all those imperatives
whenever I am scheduled to embark on a particular task; thinking of the results
before even taking a first step.
The thoughts have been
programmed to think of the results right at the pillar stone. Wings were locked
with the winds of expectations. For 33 years now, I have walked every minute
practically with the fear of what would be the outcome than being cognitive of what
could be the first step.
I have realized that in
fact the seeds of negative thought process were sown all this while have grown
to their ugliest shape juxtaposing every task that I start with a pre-expected evil
result right away, unconsciously. Had those expectations been goals and targets,
the situation would have been different, but alas, they were not. Those were
apprehensions, phobias, human psychological syndromes; and all related to fearing the future.
In the name of beliefs/customs, we tend to fear about the future.
I would fondly put it as
the myth of being trapped; being trapped by the unpredicted, being trapped by
the negative forces, and being trapped by the internal enmity. Yes, of course,
it is internal enmity – the hatred towards oneself, for not being able to win
over pessimistic thoughts.
In over dozen instances, I
myself had experienced them, if not almost in every aspect, where I, for the
fear of being trapped with negative outcomes, encountered exactly what I had feared
for:
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With
the fear that I can’t make it to taxation, I opted for a bachelor’s degree in
management
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With
the fear that I might not make it to advertising, I had settled with animation
early in my career. However, had managed to pursue my passion too.
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With
the fear that I might get cheated through online purchase, I had processed a
transaction that resulted in a shipment with missing accessories.
In retrospection, I sometimes
wonder how the fear of uncertain future influences all our lives. And have
realized that there is no such thing called pre-expectations of post-results. What
we will get would always be what exactly we have wished and craved for. All
that we get is through our good fortunes and hard work and all that we lose is the
outcome of our misconceptions (in this case our fear of being trapped). The
early we realize it, the soon we could get over it, for positive results and
for a better change.
And there we have a thing
called timing too which would also influence most of the outcomes as respected Radhika
Subramanian, CEO of Emcien says
“It is a story of humility because I think luck has so much to do with
entrepreneurship. It is something I tell myself every day. I always tell my
team, If you go home and pray for one thing today, pray that God make the
timing right and guide you to the right timing. The way things unfolded was
completely beyond me. It just happened.”
Read through that statement,
it seems definite that the luck factor has major stake in pinning down the
things. But I don’t second the thought that it is, by large, the only
influencer. I see that the luck factor stands a hypothetical factor and
represents our unpreparedness for the future.
Like many of my age group,
I, too, could not agree with Ms. Radhika Subramanian’s opinion. Nevertheless, I
fell in line believing that it along the hard work actually has a vital role in
achieving success. But not to the extent that it hinders my preparedness for
the unknown waters.
To deal well with the
unknown waters, I would like all my fellow humans to read Mr. Leo Babauta’s flowing with the unknown an excellent
write up which I think would clarify how the myth of being trapped should be
dealt with. My favourite phrase from that is ‘you respond instead of reacting’.
Meanwhile, I too try practise
thinking about immediate actions than the post results and try coming off the
myth/fear of being trapped asap.
We are opinionated on how
to come off the negative forces and grow in life. Are you? If yes, drop us your
opinion.